"I’m a feminist. So if a woman and I are going for the last empty seat on the subway, I’m not holding back."
the only feminist i see here is my reflection looking back at you
this smug fucking dildo.
Actually, by definition feminism is about equality… not about women being treated as better than men. For instance, a woman does not have any more right than a man does to take the last seat on the subway. The whole idea of chivalry is dying as people realise women are actually capable of completing tasks on their own and competing equally with men.
If a woman expects a man to give her the last seat on the subway just because she’s a woman, she’s not doing feminism right either.
Being angry that chivalrous behaviours are becoming less commonplace is kinda counter-intuitive to thinking women are equal to men. It’s like female feminists who expect a man they go on a date with to pay in full for the date just because they’re a man. That is not equality.
I mean, it’s unfortunate that COMMON FUCKING COURTESY is dying (and maybe this guy doesn’t have it), but that doesn’t make what he said un-feminist. ‘Women are equal to men, so men should ensure there are empty seats on the subway for women to take even at their own expense’ is not a logical argument.
Chivalry and female equality don’t really mesh as ideas, yo. Chivalry was based on the assumption that men had to do stuff for women because women couldn’t do anything for themselves.
“Being angry that chivalrous behaviours are becoming less commonplace is kinda counter-intuitive to thinking women are equal to men.” PFFFT.
1. The women commenting on this post probably aren’t angry that this guy isn’t giving up his seat on the subway, they’re angry that he clearly has no idea what feminism actually means, and yet his words are being propagated as acceptable and even humorous on a blog as widely read as HONY. (Shame on Brandon, I know that it’s his job to photograph and quote, but he should also know better than to spread this kind of nonsense.)
2. Many examples of chivalry, such as holding doors open for women, acknowledge that women are the weaker sex. There are very few feminists who are trying to prove that they’re physically equal to men, and yet this constantly gets presented as a red herring by misogynists who take the onus away from real feminist issues, like equal pay, equal treatment in the workplace, violence against women, and women’s reproductive rights. Most feminists don’t give a shit about petty shit like chivalry, but that being said, some “special treatment” such as being given a seat or getting to exit an elevator first are NOTHING compared to the special treatment that men receive every day due to the institutionalized sexism in this country.
UGH I’m sorry to rant about this on here but this post made me SO MAD. Feminism is good for everyone, men and women alike, people just need to take the time to learn what the word “feminist” actually means! To quote Ellen Page, “But I don’t know why people are so reluctant to say they’re feminists. Maybe some women just don’t care. But how could it be any more obvious that we still live in a patriarchal world when feminism is a bad word?”
Edit: Also, the man may well have been joking, but that doesn’t make it okay. Countless studies have shown that sexist jokes subconsciously perpetuate sexist thinking among men.
Yeah, because all the jokes when a man gets his penis CUT OFF on female dominated talk shows is funny and acceptable but joking about the archaic quality of chivalry is not okay. Jeeze. It’s a joke wherein no one got hurt. Calm down.